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How
you compose your personal
profile and the photo you
submit to accompany it are
critical to finding a match.
You should never cavalierly
post a “first draft”
without giving it
appropriate thought, and
it’s wise to scope out the
competition to see what
turns you on or off about
others’ autobiographical
descriptions. Learn from
their mistakes, and you’ll
save money, time and
heartache. Continue
reading below to better
your chances for your BikerDate.
The
Write Stuff
- Run
spell-check so your
listing isn’t riddled
with typos. A profile
full of mistakes
indicates that you’re
the sloppy, careless
type.
- Avoid
major disclosures.
Don’t feel compelled
to tell the world
everything about
yourself in the first
paragraph. ( “ And
avoid discussing your
problems or the
challenges you are
facing in life. There will be time
enough to do that later,
with the right
person.”)
- Keep
your profile positive
and upbeat . Don’t use
words like
“desperate” or tell
the world that your
biological clock is
ticking. “Avoid
describing what you want
in terms of negatives (For example,
don’t state: “I
don’t like to date
lawyers because they are
all workaholics” or
“I don’t date
teachers because they
don’t make a lot of
money” or “I don’t
date smokers because
they smell bad.”)
- Never
mention your “ex, ”
and refrain from sharing
the gory details of
prior relationships.
- Keep
your ego in check.
Don’t brag, boast or
make long lists of your
accomplishments.
- Don’t
treat the ad like
“it’s all a big
joke.
If you aren’t serious,
why would a potential
date invest any time in
responding to you,
Goofy?
- Show,
don’t tell. Instead of
saying, “I have a
great sense of humor,”
demonstrate your ability
to amuse. Write a
profile designed to make
a potential date laugh.
- Above
all, have fun!
Picture
Perfect
As
you lovingly craft an
attention-grabbing online
profile, the worst mistake
you can make is submitting a
picture that undermines your
appeal – or actually sends
people running from their
keyboards.
“
People send shots in which
they have on sunglasses, big
hats, costumes or other
things that obscure their
face, which is what people
want to see. Men sometimes
send pictures of themselves
standing next to their cars
– and they are small
specks in the photo, while
the car takes up most of the
picture. Make sure
you’re big enough and that
people can actually see
you.”
Other
men submit photos that
showcase their bare chests,
“but these are not always
flattering.” If you
don’t have six-pack abs
and pecs to die for, please
put on a shirt.
“And
don’t submit photos that
are too old, as you won’t
look like yourself when you
show up on a date. Practice
truth in advertising.
Many
singles respond only
if a photo is posted.
Unfortunately,
human beings tend to be
shallow, “and 90% of the
activity is seen by the 10%
most-attractive photos
posted.” Oddly,
those photos could easily be
of your cousin, best friend
or a complete stranger.
That’s the anonymity and
secret veil of online
dating. Does deceit lead to
a long-term relationship? Or
a happy one? The moral of
the story is that you should
post a photo of the real
you. And make sure you have
it taken by a professional
and show your best possible
inner light.”
Your
picture needs to be as
fabulous as possible.
The
person of your dreams is
constantly being bombarded
by magazine ads, television
commercials and billboards.
Indeed, few of us can
compete with airbrushed Sports
Illustrated swimsuit
models. (Ironically, if you
see them on the street
without makeup and designer
duds, they look remarkably
like your extremely average
next-door neighbor.)
Make
the right clothing choice.
Choose
the most flattering outfit
in your wardrobe.You may
even want to invest in
something new that will make
your eyes sparkle.
Concentrate on your upper
body, as the best photo to
use is one of your head and
shoulders.
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