I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 17 YEARS MY WIFE COULD CARE LESS ABOUT SEX BUT SHE SAYS SHE ENJOYS IT WHEN WE MAKE LOVE I KNOW SHE GETS OF AT LEST 3 OR 4 TIMES EVERY TIME WE MAKE LOVE BUT I NEED IT 3 OR 4 TIMES A WEEK I DONT WONT A DEVORCE BUT I AM LOOKING FOR SOMETHING ON THE SIDE WITH NO COMENTMENT I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I HAVE TRYED TO TALK TO HER BUT SHE JUST GETS MAD I HAVE TOLD HER WE CAN DO WHAT EVER SHE WONTS TO DO GO ANY WHERE OR BUY WHAT EVER SHE WNOTS THAT WE CAN AFFORD EVER ONE TELLS ME I AM TO GOOD TO HER AND I TREAT HER LIKE A QUEEN

Signed:  BIG MIKE

Dear BIG MIKE

You got the wrong person to ask about getting someone on the side......you gave you word to this person at the alter. People change over time.....and you. If it was the other way around, how would you feel?

"Biker" Abbie

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my girl likes dose not like to ride or go any where and rarley puts out anymore
found a riding parter but she is married but very hot and worth the risk
what should i do?

Signed: hd rider

Dear hd rider

NOTHING IS WORTH THAT RISK.........Jack off and see if you really feel the same way after!

"Biker" Abbie

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I have been married to the same man for 10 years we've been together 16 years. The last 4 years have been kind of bad. He shows no intreast in me I've been told that I'm a pretty woman I heard the cat calls. I've tried everything nothing seems to work the only time he wants sex is when he wants it. If I ask it's like he get mad and won't give me any till he's ready. I can't take much more rejection from this man please Help.

Signed: A reject

Dear A reject

Because you have soo many years under your belt, it would be terrible to waste. Please go to counseling and try to work things out......COMMUNICATION!

"Biker" Abbie

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I live with the father of my kids but he really doesn't do a whole lot for me.I have a son that adores his father no matter what.I have tryed to leave him but take him back cause i feel sorry that he has no place to go. He also has a big drinken problem and that i really don't like i'v been with him 20 years but not in love for the last 10 maybe you could give me some pointer that could help me

Signed: Sherry

Dear Sherry

AL-ANON & AA. You must start going. The problem is not with him....it's with you!

"Biker" Abbie

 

Dear Abbie:

abbie, my wife has moved into other bedroom after an argument pertaining to my son, who's in marines and going to iraq soon. couple months ago she said we could not afford my trips to san diego, ft. leonard wood, or n. carolina where he is now.we make better than $3000.00 per month! i said "you don't tell me when and where i can and can't go to visit my son, see him before he deploys, whatever. i said blood is thicker than $ or water, and we are still a package deal, even after 12 yrs. of marriage. sometimes i feel as just a pay check to her,she buys what she wants when she wants it,etc.
my son has a bit of a problem w/ her after she cheated on me a few years ago. they've never sat down and worked it out, to here, it was not a mistake.
there's a whole lot more,but i'll quit fer now. i'll check back later. TANX, TOOL :-)

Signed: tool

Dear tool

SHE CHEATED ON YOU!!??? KICK HER ASS THE HELL OUT! The trust can never return. She is NOT a stand-up person.............so many MORE problems lurk within her ......you have no idea!

"Biker" Abbie

Dear Abbie:

My OM wants me to wear a PO, (he's with a major outlaw club)...his reasoning behind it is that the other PO's will 'treat me better' if I wear one.  Okay--I'm married to the man--my ring IS my PO.  Besides, the guys all treat me well--they all know me, they respect me. 

I want to wait to wear it--my thought is that if the PO determines how certain people treat me...then I really don't want anything to do with them anyway...so I'll wait, AND I'll know who is worth my friendship BEFORE I wear it. 

Does that make sense to you? 
Thanks.

Signed:  powithaprob

Dear powithaprob

You know and understand the world you are in. Yes, I understand your thought, but I think you are over thinking the situation. Different rules apply for your world compared to the world the majority is in.

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